No one in particular.
That was just a trick to get your attention. Did it work?
Hubby and I do not have any children. We've been married for close to 9 years and, frankly, we are quite content with our life just as it is. We *love* children! We're the couple at church that everyone else's kids sit with. (Yes, I just ended a sentence with a preposition.) Outside of church, we tickle and wrestle and chase and have a general good time - with other people's children. Several friends have asked us to be their child's godparents. We have a list of people who are not allowed to fly together! :o)
As far as we're concerned, we may be (bio)children free for the rest of our lives. And we're fine. Really. We haven't "tried" to have children and battled infertility. We don't dislike children. The truth of the matter is that we've never felt God urging us to have children.
Those of you who are parents remember when you got that feeling. That something. That nudge. That desire.
We've never had that.
Sometimes I think, "Um, God. Have you forgotten about giving us that feeling?" If we felt that, I'm sure our life would take a turn. Until then, it's just us.
Some people feel that "everyone" should have children. They'll quote Genesis "Be fruitful and multiply." I think when scripture is used, the context of that scripture is important. Anyone can make the Bible mean anything. What if you were flipping around and read where Judas hung himself, then flipped over a few pages and read, "Go and do thou likewise." Obviously those verses do not go together.
J and I feel like parenting is a calling. Until we are called, all we can do is be ready.
It's OK to ask us if we're thinking about having children. Just don't ask us if we're thinking about starting a family.
The two of us are a family.